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There are times in life when we get rather rude reminders of our past pain.

Last week, I had one of those reminders. I got a nasty-gram in the form of a text from an ex. Sigh. I read it and the mild-PTSD kicked right in; the shaky hands, dizziness, panic sweat…the whole shebang.

But, for the first time, I came back to myself quickly, like, almost immediately. It was awesome! How the heck did I do that? Well…

I put the phone down and walked away for a minimum of five minutes. I took that time to remind myself…

OK, obligatory, “2020, what a crappy year!” Now that that’s out of the way, let’s get down to the actual effects of 2020 on nerds, specifically, cosplaying nerds.

Let me start off by stating that I have a job. I’ve had a job this whole year. I have a home and a healthy family, so I am getting through this year blessed to be perfectly honest. So, when I begin my complaining below, please know that while I feel disappointment over things lost in this craptastic year, I do have some perspective.

We lost cons, movies, tv shows, Dapper Day…

If you’ve ever met me in person, you know that I have mobility issues due to severe arthritis in my right knee. I have tremendous pain when walking and standing. I need, and will be getting, a knee replacement at some point, but until then, my pain took over my life.

Me and my ride aka The Benatar!

While dealing with doctors, figuring out healthy ways to manage my pain and just plain old living life, I found myself starting to avoid doing the things I love. I had to gear myself up for comic cons and theme parks- two of my favorite things to do. I…

I recently went back to therapy. I like to go every few years for a kind of “brain tune-up”. This time around has been especially helpful. My therapist just gets right to the heart of things quickly.

Why am I telling you this? Well, the other day I was at my appointment, and the subject of holidays came up. I am not especially fond of any holiday except Halloween these days. I don’t like Thanksgiving in particular, but it wasn’t always like that.

Before I fill you in on how to I learned to hide in plain sight and express my inner superhero, a little backstory is needed. My kid and I started cosplaying about four years ago and have been ever since. We started a blog together that chronicled our adventures as well as giving other geek parents tips and secrets to navigating the nerd world with their youngling, but our main focus was promoting body confidence and positivity.

We were really enjoying our cosplaying and blogging, but we also found ourselves feeling negativity in the cosplay community such as, picking on…

No, not THAT one! This is a story about a tube of lipstick and how it is a connection to the happiest and most influential time in my childhood.

When I was a girl, I was fortunate enough to have Doris Fulford as my Grandmother. Doris wore Revlon’s Fire and Ice lipstick exclusively.

I’ve recently gotten hooked, and I mean HOOKED, on “Parks and Recreation”. I know, I’m super late to this party. A few weeks ago, I got stood-up for a date, and there was a marathon on the ‘ol TV. After one episode, I was in for the whole experience.

A lot of people absolutely love this show, so my new obsession is not any big deal, but it kicked open some fond memories of my father.

I discovered quickly that I am a Leslie Knope to the core. Binder obsession and all. My father was Ron Swanson with a full…

Do you ever sometimes think, “I’d love to go back to my younger self and let her/him know that it’s all gonna be OK”? I do, sometimes, but then I stop wishing for the opportunity. Why? I needed to learn for myself that I’m good just as I am/was.

Me today, living my best life!

Let me take you back a bit. I am a sensitive person. A “heart on my sleeve” kinda gal. I always was. Growing up, however, that was very much frowned upon. Crying was met with anger and yelling and more anger and as a result, more crying. Strong feelings were met…

As I continue to go about my day-to-day, I am constantly reminded of how I am truly living my best life now. So, if you’ll allow me to get super personal for this post, I want to discuss what exactly that means.

Cheers to your best life!

What is “Living Your Best Life”? Well, there are as many ways to do that as there are people, so there is no singular answer to that question. So, I’ll just tell you about mine.

My journey began in earnest five years ago. My 20 year marriage ended, my father was dying; I had a good job, but…

The “Rules” for Body Confidence and Body Positivity

I talk a lot about body confidence and body positivity in my writing, but it occured to me that not everyone has body confidence and positivity and may not even know what the heck those things are.

How do you achieve body confidence? I mean, there are so many things out there working against you. The photoshopped models in magazines, fat shaming celebrities on the internet and on television, weight loss “solutions” in infomercials and trolls leaving comments on just about everything. This is a struggle for everyone. Even celebrities are not…

Kim Henderson McAndrew

Kim Henderson McAndrew is a mom, cosplayer, blogger for inplainsight.style, model, warrior for body confidence and positivity, unicorn believer and a huge nerd.

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